Today’s episode will help you to lift your ‘self image’ and become a healthy mirror for everybody in your life. Learn how average is ‘ok’. Seek out people and activities that highlight your strengths and bring you success.
This episode is all about how we can cultivate and enhance our ‘resilience’. According to studies in positive psychology, resilience is naturally increased in children who were raised by ‘authoritative’ parents. We look at four parenting ‘styles’ and how we can meet all of our needs with the goal of evolving into the glorious stage of ‘self-actualisation’ as described in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
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This episode is all about excavating the gold that is tucked away in the ‘shadow’ of your psyche so that you can ‘transform’ it into a helpful and enlightening analysis of your psychological structure. When you embrace the parts of yourself that have been rejected and cast aside, you strengthen your authenticity and individuality in ways that empower you beyond belief.
Chrissy is a ‘truther’ and the most delightful human who knows exactly what is going on in this crazy world. Listen in for the most informative, motivational conversation between two women who are willing to put our full selves into saving our precious ‘freedoms’.
This amazing Universe has a path mapped out just for you. All you need to do is follow the ‘signs’ and learn how to read the language the Universe uses to communicate and guide you on your way.
An amazing conversation with former Navy Seal Jacob Bachmann covering the damaging mental and physical impact of deployment. Jacob manages PTSD and heals through yoga, meditation, and food as medicine.
A beautiful deep sharing about relationships, intuition, and knowing when and how to follow your guidance. We talk about our greatest learning and how to determine whether or not your relationship is for your highest good.
This episode looks at three things that are potentially worse than death itself, along with how to recognise the grief associated with social distancing and find the ‘collateral beauty’.
Today’s episode will teach you how to ‘blossom’ rather than ‘age’ and how to embrace night sweats, thinning hair, hormone disruption, and all the lovely things that happen post twenties, thirties, forties, and fifties.
Today’s episode is an unrehearsed, unscripted share from my heart to yours on what I have learnt in the past fifty years and how it has impacted my life.
Today’s episode is all about learning how to love the shadow side of your psyche so that you don’t ‘project’ it out onto other people. Know that there is ‘gold’ to be found in the deep dark corners of your personality.
Today’s episode is all about remembering how to have crazy, wild, fun in your life and balance the need to be ‘responsible’ with being ‘spontaneous’ and free spirited like when you were a child.
This episode is all about your ‘Victim’ archetype. Transforming this archetype comes through bringing your victim from the ‘shadow’ into the ‘victor’ – the victorious part of you that overcomes your ‘fear of survival’ – not just your physical survival but the survival of your identity, your hopes, dreams, and aspirations.
Today’s episode is all about your ‘Prostitute’ archetype. Whether you are male or female, you have a ‘prostitute’ archetype that guards your integrity and alerts you to when you are in danger of ‘selling your soul’.
Today’s episode is all about your ‘Saboteur’ archetype. When you become ‘aware’ of your archetypes, you can begin to use them to ‘empower’ you rather than sabotage your relationships and opportunities.
Today’s episode is all about conflict resolution and the gift of forgiveness. I am going to run through a ‘healthy’ formula for resolving conflict in a step-by-step manner and leave you with five special ‘tips’ that help me maintain harmony in all of my loving relationships.
Today’s episode is all about how to ‘thrive’ rather than ‘survive’ in your relationships… I am going to teach you five important elements in a thriving relationship along with a little bonus tip at the end.
Today’s episode will help you to connect with ‘inspiration’ and find your own personal meaning and purpose in life. You will discover how to increase your wellbeing using five building blocks that will take you from ‘surviving’ to ‘thriving’.
Today’s episode is going to help you to determine whether or not your fears are ‘rational’ or ‘irrational’. Fear cannot be ‘eliminated’ however it can be ‘managed’. I will teach you a five step process to master your fears and build more courage.
Today’s episode is going to cover three main reasons why we judge others and how to consciously ‘discern’ rather than ‘judge’… There has never been a more truthful statement than ‘Don’t judge a book by its cover’ and I learnt this the hard way… I’ll share this with you right now…
Today’s episode will teach you how to recognise and avoid procrastinating. Procrastination is at the core of everyone – we all do it and it has a negative impact on your performance. Procrastinating causes you to stress, worry, and feel guilty… I am going to help you become productive instead.
Today’s episode is going to see you tap into your own personal power as we walk through your talents, abilities, and potential influence… You don’t need followers on Instagram to be an ‘influencer’… I am going to give you five great steps to lead you into ‘empowerment’.
In today’s episode I am going to give you a ‘run through’ on what self-esteem actually is and how yours has been shaped along with how you promote other people’s self-esteem. I will teach you how to influence everybody you have contact with in a positive way and with ‘intention’…
In today’s episode I am going to teach you how ‘regrets’ hold you back… I’ll walk you through how to ‘forgive’ yourself and others… along with a 4-step process that I use with my counselling/coaching clients…
In this episode, I am going to share Jayne’s story… which is also ‘our’ story… I am also going to give you a lot of tips and information on how to help a friend, relative, or even yourself through grief…
I am going to explain some of the questions I have been asked when coaching/counselling clients through grief… I’ll clarify why grief is ultimately good for you and I will also share a secret from my wedding night that even my husband doesn’t know…
Today’s episode is going to teach you how to ‘balance’ your ‘spiritual’ chakras. I will show you how resentment and forgiveness affect your fourth chakra and why every ‘wound’ needs to become a ‘bubble-gum’ experience. Balanced chakras equal greater wellbeing.
Today’s episode is going to teach you how to ‘balance’ your chakras for more energy and vitality. You ‘spend’ energy everyday through your chakra system and you can become your own private ‘guru’ as you learn to ‘read’ your chakras.
Today’s episode is all about how you create your life using your imagination, your beliefs, and your beautiful fun-loving, innocent, spontaneous inner-child archetype. Your inner-child influences the creation of your life and ‘adulthood’ has changed all of that.
Today’s episode is all about putting yourself first so that you are better equipped to look after the people you love and care about. Self care is not selfish… it’s necessary. Let’s examine your self nurturing skills and meet the ‘shadow’ side of your psyche. Do other people’s needs override your needs?
Today’s episode is going to see your confidence go ‘through the roof‘… I am going to teach you how to ‘fake it till you make it’… along with three main traits that lay the foundation for confidence… I am going to show you how to build a solid belief in yourself…
Boundaries keep you feeling safe and secure… I will teach you how to assess your boundaries… create them if you have to and determine where your limits are so that the people who love you will know how to treat you and interact with you…
All or nothing eating screws with your mind and your body…
I spent years in a miserable, unhealthy, unsustainable relationship with ‘food’… I punished my body, messed with my mind, and chipped away at my self-esteem. In my early twenties, I worked part time as an aerobics instructor back in a time when aerobics was booming. I worked at ‘the’ most popular gym in the eastern suburbs of Sydney. I also did a short stint on the TV show ‘Aerobics Oz Style’.
One of my biggest goals was to teach the 6.15pm class… Every instructor wanted that class because it was full of the fittest people in the gym; it pumped with obsessive energy, and it was the most popular time slot given only to the ‘best’ instructors. I noticed that the leanest instructors with the shapeliest bodies were given the 5.30pm and 6.15pm classes… especially on the weekends.
In the pursuit of seeing my name on the roster for the 6.15, I began my ‘all or nothing’ rollercoaster ride with bingeing and starving. I would wake up Monday morning with the intention of being ‘good’. Only healthy food entered my mouth until Friday… then came the binge. Because I had ‘deprived’ myself all week, weekends were all about making up for my ‘loss’.
It took years for me to realise that deprivation was not the answer. You don’t have to divest from the things you love. If you love chocolate, have some. If you love fries, have some… The trick is to commit to the 80/20 rule. Eighty percent of the time, you eat healthy nourishing food and twenty percent of the time is for ‘cheat’ food. The best approach is to do this ‘daily’ so that there is not one single day of your life where you strip away the things that bring you joy. I enjoy a full fat latte or two every day.
Food is a vehicle to celebrate. Humans have been ‘feasting’ since the beginning of time. The thing to remember is ‘moderation’. Everything can be had with restraint and composure. I still remember the day I fetched back a cake I had thrown in the bin and shoved it into my mouth like a viking. I had to get it in as fast as I could before the ‘window’ of ‘allowing’ myself slammed shut for another week… It wasn’t pretty but it shocked me into realising that I had a problem.
I now know that ‘all or nothing’ thinking is a form of ‘negative’ thinking. It doesn’t set you up for success… it sets you up for collapse. Deprivation is a slow form of torture that leaves you feeling ‘disadvantaged’ and ‘wanting’. Before you order your next burger with fries, ask yourself… ‘Do I really want this?’… If the answer is a big fat YES… then HAVE IT… I guarantee that once you feel good in your skin and arrive at a weight that suits you, burgers will naturally move into the 20% piece of the pie.
Eating well and loving your body encourages self-love rather than
After being married for nearly thirty years, there are a few things I have come to know for certain about relationships…
- Your partner is NOT your best friend
Regardless of the fact that so many people say ‘he or she is my best friend’, that doesn’t have to be the case. Partners and best friends play quite different roles. Trying to make your partner your absolute everything puts too much pressure on one person. You need a best friend for the times when your partner is driving you nuts and you need somebody to download on and empathise with your plight. Let’s face it, partners can be a pain in the ass. There’s nothing better than a non-judgemental bestie who totally loves your partner, yet also ‘gets’ where you’re coming from. Let your partner off the hook and find a best friend who fits the role. They will also be so much more fun to shop with, take to the health spa, and give you a more ‘objective’ opinion on things.
- You can keep secrets from your partner
I hear people say ‘There should be no secrets’. My question is ‘Why not?’ There are some things I totally keep to myself. There are things my partner knows; things my besties know; things that only my counsellor knows; and things that only I know and only I will ever know. There’s nothing wrong with that. You are entitled to keep some things in your own mind for safekeeping and freedom of judgement or ridicule. You are well within your rights to have you own ‘off-limits to the world’ thoughts, dreams, and prayers. Some things are just ‘sacred’ to you and that’s absolutely OK. You don’t have to share every little part of yourself. Some things are just for you and you alone. Keep some precious little bits aside and cherish them. You deserve it.
- You can have your own money and independence
If there’s one thing I’m certain of it’s this – you can only ‘truly’ rely on ‘yourself’. That’s a fact. Other people won’t mean to but they will let you down in one way or another. Let’s face it; they are busy trying to survive themselves. They have their own struggles, challenges, and demons to fight. The only person who truly has ‘your’ best interests at heart is ‘you’. Set yourself up financially so that you know exactly what’s going on. So many people lose a partner and don’t know the first thing about writing a cheque, B-Paying a bill, running a business, or renewing an insurance policy. Being independent is the only sure way to know that your financial future is secure. If you do share things with your partner, know exactly how it all works.
- You don’t have to do EVERYTHING TOGETHER
There is nothing more unattractive than ‘neediness’. People who are demanding and needy are referred to as ‘hand-brakes’. They are the fun police, in charge of making sure nothing goes on without their full approval and participation. Find your own fun outside of your relationship. Get a sport fired up or a hobby under your belt. There is nothing more appealing than someone who has a life of their own, runs their own show and has plenty to talk about and report in on. If you do ‘everything together’, you already have the run down on all the details and events that took place. It’s much more fun to bounce in the door full of excitement ready to share the mind-blowing episode that just took place in your life with your awaiting partner.
- You can be attracted to other people
If your head doesn’t turn to the side from time to time, there is something not quite right. It is natural to be attracted to people of the same and opposite sex. It doesn’t mean you want to jump their bones; it just means that you find something about them appealing. It might be a look or style that you want to implement yourself. It could also be that they are exceedingly hot and totally perve worthy. I always remember the saying ‘It doesn’t matter where you get your appetite, so long as you dine at home’. I always dine at home but from time to time I do see some yummy specimens out there in the big wide world. Even the odd little flirt from time to time does no harm. So long as you are conscious and aware of what you are doing and have some snug fit boundaries around how far you’ll go. Innocence and transparency is key.
- Your partner does not MAKE you HAPPY
It is nobody’s job to make you happy. Happiness is your job – 100%. Happiness comes from within. It is created and generated inside of you. The minute you start looking for happiness from outside sources, namely partners, you are barking up the wrong tree. Happiness comes from being grateful for what you have, finding passion in what you do, and fulfilling yourself by following your heart and dreams. You get to read the script that is written on your heart and it is your responsibility to act out the role that your life script instructs. You have your own intrinsic purpose for being here and following that purpose is the source of your soul felt happiness. No partner, friend, neighbour, pet, or explosive one-night-stand can give you that. They can ‘add’ to your happiness, but they can’t create it. Don’t expect them to.
- Your partner does not need to COMPLETE you
I cringe when I hear the words ‘You complete me’. To me that sounds so needy and dis-empowering. You need to be ‘complete’ all by yourself. When you are ‘complete’, you are ready for a partner. In-complete people are looking for a part in a jigsaw puzzle. Put all your pieces together and present your full self to somebody else. They can then present their full self to you and together you can ‘compliment’ each other. Complimenting is so much better than completing. There is nothing more powerful than knowing that you have everything you need and want within your ‘self’. Having a partner is like icing your life with rich, sweet, chocolate frosting. It adds to the whole presentation but it’s not the cake. You are the cake. You supply the ingredients and follow the perfect recipe. Don’t make your partner an ingredient. You can still be a cake without frosting but you can’t hold together without flour and eggs.
- You don’t have to think about your partner ‘every-time’ during SEX
There are times when you’re totally connected to your partner, you’ve spent quality time together, and you feel close, understood, heard, and appreciated. At these times, sex can be incredibly intimate and loving. At other times, it can be mechanical, ‘other-person’ pleasing, and even a ‘chore’. It’s common to feel the highs and lows of an on-going sex life with one partner. I have no judgement over what people do to spice up their sex life provided nobody gets hurt, animals are NOT involved, and all agreements are mutual – LOL. I do know that some people fantasise while having sex with their partner. One woman told me that she ‘pretends’ her neighbour has come into her house and is seducing her instead of her partner who is making love to her. She’s not even attracted to this neighbour but there is something about him that she finds mysterious and that creates a bit of light relief during those ‘mechanical’ times. It is far better to allow your imagination to be ‘unfaithful’ than your physical self. Who hasn’t had a weird dream where you make love to somebody totally random? If it’s in your sub-conscious mind, it doesn’t take much to move over to the conscious.
Do you feel the need to control everything and everyone in your life? Do you move forward full of fear and apprehension? Do you hear yourself asking – What if I get hurt? What if I don’t make it? What if I fail? Do you spend time questioning, doubting, and anticipating the worst? If you do, you are not alone. It is human nature to fear the ‘unknown’. Unless of course, you have a ‘higher power’ or a ‘divine manager’ who takes over when the going gets tough.
MY ADVICE – Develop a ‘stronger’ sense of ‘connection’ with the Universe…
People are fantastic at having faith after the fact. Once everything is ok. When they can finally ‘see’ the results or after they arrive at an outcome. This is not having faith. This is requiring proof first and then having faith second.
YOU NEED TO HAVE FAITH FIRST, THEN THE UNIVERSE TAKES CARE OF EVERYTHING – IN WAYS YOU COULD NEVER IMAGINE. It does not happen the other way around.
Here is an analogy for you…
You desperately need a vino with your bestie. You’ve picked your alehouse and you know the directions you will take to get there. Anything can happen along the way but you don’t think about that. You simply chuck on some heels and head out expecting to arrive in ‘X’ amount of time.
As you travel along familiar or unfamiliar streets, you have ‘faith’ in knowing that you will arrive at your destination. You can’t ‘see’ your destination however you have ‘faith’ that you are heading there. You might be following a map or listening to your GPS system. This is what ‘faith’ looks like.
The next time you experience a problem to deal with or an unexpected obstacle, try sending out a ‘thought’ for a ‘higher power’ to take over. Surrender it and see what happens. Every time I do this, something fabulous occurs. The Universe does some amazing shit and everything seems to just ‘work out’. Half the time I haven’t got the slightest clue what even happened.
Having faith and surrendering a situation, person, event, or conflict, allows for miracles to take place and the eventual outcome is always far better than that which you could ‘control’ yourself. This is particularly helpful for situations you can’t find your own solution to. Or one of those damned if I do and damned if I don’t scenarios. When you just don’t know which way to turn, simply say, “Universe, take over, I’m getting the fuck outta here!” You’ll be surprised how good it feels and how amazing the conclusions will be.
Try it. It really works… But only if you have ‘faith’.
Everybody wants to reach a particular destination, but all the joy occurs while you’re journeying toward it…
Have you ever found yourself saying… “I’ll be happy when…?”
Every attainable item, every achievement, and every accomplishment eventually loses its gloss. Once you acquire it, the challenge no longer exists. What gives your life meaning is actually having challenges, hopes, and dreams. Without this driving focus, life can become hollow and meaningless.
My advice is this...
Enjoy the journey for what it is. The journey provides the mystery, the intrigue, and the excitement. Once you reach the destination, the feeling of achievement is fabulous. You will breathe a sigh of relief and feel a great sense of accomplishment wash over you but then your ego mind will undoubtedly move on to the next thing. Your ego is never satisfied. Your ego does not care to park itself and take in the view. Your ego is busy, relentless, and insatiably ‘hungry’.
It takes your ‘conscious’ mind and a commitment to ‘consciousness’ to be able to control your ego and keep your focus on the ‘immediate’ moment. Don’t rush your life. Don’t focus entirely on the next destination. Challenge yourself to be 100% present for the journey. Reward yourself for every little step you take toward your goals and end result. If you don’t enjoy the journey, the destination will soon become meaningless.
I remember the day when my son asked my husband and I for some relationship advice. We were perched up in bed drinking our morning coffee when he came into our room and asked, “How important is physical attraction in a relationship?” My husband replied “Mate, you are better off going for a ‘B grader’… like… (pointing hesitantly in my direction) rather than aiming for a ‘high maintenance princess’ who can’t eat this, won’t touch that, and wouldn’t dare get her hands dirty or have the capacity to ram a shovel into the earth and pull off a hard day’s work.”
Perhaps in that moment I should have been offended but I wasn’t. Being called a ‘B grader’ was actually a kind of compliment. What my husband meant was that I am down to earth; and not afraid to roll up my sleeves and get my hands dirty. I know that I was not born to be a princess. I am a physically strong woman with a free thinking mind. I am not prissy and I can’t bear women who play the ‘damsel in distress’. I am happy being a B grader however I make sure that I am a bloody good B grader. In fact ‘B’ grader should stand for ‘Best I can ‘B’ grader’…
Being ‘exceptionally average’ means making the most of the assets you possess. No matter how ‘average’ you are… you have something uniquely beautiful and exquisite about you. It may be your smile, your sparkling eyes, your shapely legs, or the colour of your skin. Whatever it is that you ‘like’ about yourself… do your best to enhance it and flaunt it. Once you have nailed the physical aspect of being exceptionally average, it is time to work on the internal aspect. This is all about your ‘attitude’. Firstly, you need to ‘believe’ that you are exceptionally, beautifully – ‘B+’…
Before you can ‘conceive it’, you have to ‘believe it’. It all starts with your thinking… Think ‘Bloody Beautiful B+’
When I meditated on this question, here’s the answer that showed up. ‘Life is the full expression of energy. Life gives form to all particles in existence. There is no good or bad, there just is. Mortal life can be destroyed whereas soul life is eternal and indestructible. Because you are mortal, you have judgement about life. You look around and determine what is good and what is bad’. That makes sense but if you watch the evening news, chances are you will find a lot that you consider ‘bad’. How do you get back to feeling good and coming to peace with this earth existence? Surely there is some powerful force out there judging this whole charade and desperately hoping that well all get our act together. If there is a God, then why does all this bad stuff happen? Doesn’t God judge us and grade us according to how we live our life? Thinking about all of this is enough to drive you crazy. Perhaps if you can come to terms with the next paragraph, you might find a deeper meaning in this whole thing called ‘life’.
Life has no judgement. Energy fills matter, regardless of whether it is perceived to be good or bad, and life evolves through the process. Human beings, guided and directed by ego energy determine what happens in life. The ego is wilful and like a small child constantly calls for attention. Humans gradually become awake to this as they feel the frustration of not being able to meet the ego’s needs. They eventually ‘discipline’ the ego with soul guidance and perseverance. The ego quietens and becomes calm as the human aligns more with love and divinity. Your soul is always calling you, beckoning you to connect. Being disconnected from your soul is like depriving your human body of oxygen. The soul gasps for connection. Without connection, the human body experiences illness and eventually mortal death. The purpose of life is to express your soul through your human form while quietening your ego and connecting with love. The more you connect with love, the more your world, your existence, attunes with freedom and enthusiasm.
So that’s it. Connect with your soul and express it through you with love rather than giving your ego all of your attention; stop judging life, and quieten the ego. Simple? Not really but in my next blog, I’ll share a few tips.
I still remember my first year as a graphic designer. My portfolio consisted of TAFE projects. I was a top student at Enmore Design Centre and I possessed everything I needed except for confidence and experience. I had no choice. If I was going to get to where I needed to go, I had to fake it till I made it.
I went door knocking showing my work to potential clients. My first client didn’t need to know that I had not yet been ‘paid’ to create. I had the skills, I had the talent, I knew how; I just didn’t have the track record to lean on and feel secure in my work.
I took on my first project. It was an $8,000 brochure. This was back when designers were paid seriously well. I had invested $30,000 in equipment. This was back when computers and software cost the earth. I completed that project and my client was more than satisfied. Sure, I made some silly mistakes along the way, all at my own expense of course.
I still remember the feeling I had when I took out one TAFE project and replaced it with that first brochure in my portfolio. I no longer had to fake it. I was now a paid professional albeit very green. For me, ‘keen’ outweighed ‘green’. I had the passion of a thousand lovers for what I did and that held me in good stead.
You can’t start at the top. You have to begin with your first step and that can be a scary move. You have to stand on the first rung of a ladder to know that it will hold your weight and then you begin to climb. Trust that first rung and begin the ascent to meet your passion. When you eventually step onto the roof, you will surely enjoy the view.
GRATEFUL TO BE A WOMAN IN BALANCE
Why am I in balance? I consciously and self-caringly create my life to be this way. When I was younger, I didn’t have as much balance. Weekends were taken up renovating houses and chasing financial success. From what I observe, our twenties, thirties, and forties are all about getting ahead and preparing for retirement. The scales lean heavily toward work, work, and more work. Both men and women are stretched due to the changing roles and the combining of duties. Housework is no longer ‘women’s work’. Men are expected to chip in and lend a hand. This makes men more stretched. Women work both in and out of the house. This makes women more stretched. There is more reason than ever before to balance work with fun. At forty-five, I have finally got it just right.
I am a working mum so life has its demands. I have learnt to make a little go a long way. I take at least one hour for myself every day of the week. This hour is very precious to me. I either go for a run, which includes a 10-minute meditation at the half waypoint. Let me explain, I run into the bush, sit on a rock and close my eyes in nature for ten minutes before running the second leg back home. Or, I ride my horse. The hour spent on my horse completely feeds my soul. I have come to realise that if I get that hour for myself, I can deal with anything. When I go running, I process my ‘head stuff’, work out my next set of goals, plan my day, deal with any unfinished business, and generally just ‘blow off steam’. After my run, I can deal with the onslaught of “Mum, (fill in the blanks).”
Even if it means getting up an hour earlier or going to bed an hour later at night, you need an hour a day of ‘me time’. If you really want balance in your life, you have to create it. Nobody, and I mean nobody is ever going to come up to you and organise your life, making sure you eat well, exercise, nurture and pamper yourself. If you don’t do this for yourself, it is not going to happen. Be assertive about it; demand it if you have to, but make it happen. Schedule it in your diary. Block out one hour a day and then decide what to do with it. Start with what makes you happy and what feeds your soul. Being fit makes me happy, so running is a no-brainer for me. Riding my horse feeds into my spirit and re-charges my energy; therefore, riding is a must. Without these two ‘me items’, I would not be a happy balanced woman. I would be a cranky, resentful witch. I’m not even joking.
Give to yourself. You deserve it. You are a woman needing balance.
My morning run out to my bush rock is always a bit of a ‘think tank’. I run through all the crap in my mind and then decide to leave it all behind and concentrate on my breathing and the air on my face. When I reach this place of ‘surrender’, that’s when the good stuff happens.
I was reflecting on the fact that every fairy tale ever told has an end to ‘innocence’. There is always a point where the hero or heroine realises, as Angelina Jolie portraying Maleficent in her latest movie put it so well, ‘there is evil in this world’.
There it is, the end of innocence. At some point along the way, everybody learns that the world has two components – good and evil. More importantly, you have both good and evil within you, as does everybody else with an ego. The question is ‘Which tiger do you feed?’ The evil tiger in your mind or the good tiger in your heart? My answer has always been this…
Feed both! A hungry animal is an aggressive animal. Feed it by acknowledging it, being aware of it, and giving it the necessary attention it needs to be valued. Then, indulge your good tiger and feed it well. A full heart is a loving heart. A happy heart does good in this world and crushes evil with the ability to express light and purity.
Yes it’s true. All of this goes through my mind as my feet pound the track and I allow myself to be human. Feed your tigers today – both of them.
On my run this morning, I was wing punched in the face by a large black butterfly. Because I have a unique language with the universe that I call a ‘symbologue’, meaning that the universe communicates with me through signs and symbols, I decided to pay attention and investigate what the ‘message’ could mean.
There is a Native American legend that says, “If anyone desires a wish to come true, they must first capture a butterfly and whisper their wish to it. Since the butterfly can make no sound, the butterfly cannot reveal the wish to anyone except the Great Spirit who hears and sees all. In gratitude for giving the beautiful butterfly its freedom, the Great Spirit always grants the wish. So, according to legend, by making a wish and giving the butterfly its freedom, the wish will be taken to the heavens and granted.”
A butterfly symbolises new life; and particularly a ‘black’ butterfly, symbolises a new stronger life after a period of transformation. At the time of being hit in the face, I was thinking about the strong call I hear to help others and share a message of strength and personal empowerment. Like all journeys, there have been bumps in the road, however all is coming to fruition now and I am seeing the end result. The transformation has begun.
The butterfly is a reminder to make changes when opportunity arises and I have made some dramatic changes in my life. The butterfly has been used in many religions and cultures to represent freedom, fun, and joyous times. The butterfly symbolises a state of naturalness and purity. I like this symbol because my connection to nature is intense. The butterfly is also a symbol of spirits and souls. For this, I am deeply grateful for each and every person I have the privilege of connecting with. If you are reading this then that means you.
I wish you freedom, fun, and joyous times. May you transform into the strongest version of yourself and connect with nature and purity. May you meet the greatest spirits and souls and change for the better whenever opportunity arises. In some cultures the butterfly brings luck. I wish you copious amounts of luck.
The next time you see a butterfly, make a wish. Perhaps my black butterfly will cross your path before it transforms again and becomes even more magnificent.
The more I venture through this life, I discover and master the rules and laws that regulate manifestation. The one I have struggled with most is ‘surrender’. Having the athlete archetype as part of my make up, I know about the importance of effort. Lately though, I have found myself misinterpreting effort as the need to control. How do I put effort into something and not control it? When I put effort into running, I control my muscles and my mind; my brain tells my legs to put one foot in front of the other. One thing I don’t have to control is my breathing. This happens involuntarily. I associate my breath with life; it feeds into the chi that flows through me. The same is true for other projects or endeavours. There is a part I can control and a part that happens all by itself, an involuntary part that takes care of itself and breathes life into my effort.
The endeavours I have reaped the most success from are the ones I have put the required amount of effort into, without faltering, and then stepped back and allowed the universe to do its part. If I continue to hang on and form some neediness around the outcome, it all falls into a stagnant void. Nothing happens and then I find myself feeling anxious. Once the effort part is done, I now surrender it over and trust that it will all unfold. While time passes, I focus my attention on the next thing, knowing that all is well. It is when I have truly disconnected from all expectation and yearning that a perfect result shows up. It is solely through the surrender that the success and abundance flows in. The surrender opens up a channel for the universe to act. The universe does not seem to respond to demands or begging. The universe appears to need space to act. Neediness and pressing repels the forces of manifestation. It creates a block that puts the outcome on hold.
All abundances comes through when I bring my mind into present time and simply flow with gratitude. When I am happy with what I have in my life and require nothing else to ‘make’ me happy, that is when I am showered with abundance. If I am constantly checking my emails, waiting for a response or an answer, it stubbornly refuses to show up. The longer it takes to show up, the more anxious I become until finally, I surrender. I get to that place where the controlling exhausts me and I snap back into the knowing that it really doesn’t matter. I don’t really ‘need’ it. I am the same person with or without it. It does not define me and it is not going to be the deciding factor in whether or not my life is ok. This is the best place to be. This is the place where things really start to shift and fire up. Emails come in, the phone rings and all flow is restored. From now on, I am letting go before I even take hold. Working with and not against the universe and its God is the surest path to success and abundance.