GRATEFUL TO BE A WOMAN IN BALANCE
Why am I in balance? I consciously and self-caringly create my life to be this way. When I was younger, I didn’t have as much balance. Weekends were taken up renovating houses and chasing financial success. From what I observe, our twenties, thirties, and forties are all about getting ahead and preparing for retirement. The scales lean heavily toward work, work, and more work. Both men and women are stretched due to the changing roles and the combining of duties. Housework is no longer ‘women’s work’. Men are expected to chip in and lend a hand. This makes men more stretched. Women work both in and out of the house. This makes women more stretched. There is more reason than ever before to balance work with fun. At forty-five, I have finally got it just right.
I am a working mum so life has its demands. I have learnt to make a little go a long way. I take at least one hour for myself every day of the week. This hour is very precious to me. I either go for a run, which includes a 10-minute meditation at the half waypoint. Let me explain, I run into the bush, sit on a rock and close my eyes in nature for ten minutes before running the second leg back home. Or, I ride my horse. The hour spent on my horse completely feeds my soul. I have come to realise that if I get that hour for myself, I can deal with anything. When I go running, I process my ‘head stuff’, work out my next set of goals, plan my day, deal with any unfinished business, and generally just ‘blow off steam’. After my run, I can deal with the onslaught of “Mum, (fill in the blanks).”
Even if it means getting up an hour earlier or going to bed an hour later at night, you need an hour a day of ‘me time’. If you really want balance in your life, you have to create it. Nobody, and I mean nobody is ever going to come up to you and organise your life, making sure you eat well, exercise, nurture and pamper yourself. If you don’t do this for yourself, it is not going to happen. Be assertive about it; demand it if you have to, but make it happen. Schedule it in your diary. Block out one hour a day and then decide what to do with it. Start with what makes you happy and what feeds your soul. Being fit makes me happy, so running is a no-brainer for me. Riding my horse feeds into my spirit and re-charges my energy; therefore, riding is a must. Without these two ‘me items’, I would not be a happy balanced woman. I would be a cranky, resentful witch. I’m not even joking.
Give to yourself. You deserve it. You are a woman needing balance.